Today I drove to Richmond, VA from Chapel Hill, NC and back just for lunch...and it was soooooo worth it! I got to spend face to face time with Kelly and Karen who I've met through blogging and various triplet message boards. I felt like I already knew them but now I feel like I've known them my whole life. These ladies are incredible. If you have not visited their blogs, you must. They are inspiring women, hardworking women, loving women, and above all incredible triplet mommies. Like Karen said on her blog (she beat me to posting first about our afternoon!) it is just so nice to spend time with other HOM moms, because they just get it, they've been down many of the same roads as I; from infertility, to treatments, to triplet pregnancy, to preterm birth, to NICU stays, to dealing with depression, to breastfeeding/pumping/feeding issues, to general logistical issues with triplets...and no matter what else we've been through or experienced along the way, no matter how we live our lives individually, there was absolutely no judgment, there were no unwanted opinions or advice, just open, honest, compassionate conversation and understanding. Oh, and did I mention they are both hilarious with a capital H???
The most wonderful part about today was after we'd already sat down and been chatting for a while, I excused myself to use the ladies room and realized that Zoe had already come up in conversation (after barely 5 minutes) and she had come up so naturally. It wasn't forced, it wasn't awkward...it was just talking about my kids...not my child who died. I can barely describe in words what this was like for me because it has rarely, if ever, happened since Zoe died. Karen and Kelly were just so compassionate about our loss, but didn't pity me...there was no look of "thank God that's not me" in their eyes. Thank you ladies, for a most wonderful afternoon. I honestly think I could still be sitting outside on that bench with you just talking and talking and talking! I hope we can do it again sometime, some way before we're too old to travel!!!
Jess...we missed you and I really hope our paths will cross sometime soon!